The Power to Corrupt

An intro to my sexual psyche, for those of you who are curious.

I am into the BDSM culture, as it were, specifically power games. I'm by nature a Dom, though I'm a passive Dom. I'm more interested in an obedient sub, rather than one that has to be trained or "broken in". As such, I've always been curious about the best ways to not only explore this kink of mine, but also give those subs who may be in my life the chance to control when they submit and for how long.

Safety words are always a good idea within the throws of passion, but I think icons are both more effective and more subtle before and after the Scene itself. My favorite right now is the collar; it is a sign of ownership, a sign of servitude, but it is also a sign of assumption much in the same way a crown or helmet is. When the collar isn't locked to the sub, there can be the assumption that the Scene may be started when the sub decides to put the collar on, and is stopped or wound down when the sub takes the collar off. This gives them the control over their own sexual life as well as giving the Dom/me a silent nod to, well, do their thing.

In this way, I see placing a collar on in front of someone, especially myself, to be a sacred act. Along the lines of saying that one loves someone, or that one wants to keep someone. The idea is that the rarity and the power of the statement, or in this case the act, magnifies its importance. So in the future, those of you who find yourself putting collars on for me, do know that I have great adoration and respect for the gesture.

Until the next idea strikes me,

To your grace and enlightenment,

The Magus